Expert Advice Feature in The Knot Florida Spring 2014 Issue

Expert Advice Feature in The Knot Florida Spring 2014 Issue

I was given this wonderful opportunity again by the talented people at The Knot Florida to be able to share my thoughts and ideas with brides statewide. Take a look at some great advice I offer to my brides. You can pick up your personal copy at any major bookstore as well as at Publix grocery stores.

Keeping track of shower and wedding gifts

Often times when a couple starts to receive gifts, they think they will surely remember who gave each and every gift. Big mistake! Simply put, you must know exactly who gave you what. 

Listen to the advice of millions of brides and grooms and carefully keep track of your gifts. Then you’ll be in good shape to make sure each person receives a thank you note.  

Create a gift list  

Have one place where you log in each present you receive. Use a computer, iPad, notebook, wedding keepsake book or other tracking device. (If you’re using an electronic device, back up often.)

Have just one list. Individual lists at the bride’s house, the groom’s car, the parent’s house, etc. can cause your note writing task to be a burden as you try to sort things out.  

Make an entry on your list each time you receive a gift at home, at a shower or elsewhere. Without fail! Even if you’re immediately writing a thank you note, you will still want one complete record of all gifts.

Resist the urge to assign this task to anyone else, even if you have an eager volunteer (such as Mom). You’re the ones who will be writing the thank you note so it will be most helpful if you make the entry.

As gifts begin to arrive, start immediately to keep a list of the gifts and their senders. Be specific, right from the start. Don’t write “serving dish from Aunt Monica.” By the time you receive all your gifts, you might have a half-dozen serving dishes. Instead, enter “white porcelain serving platter trimmed in black.” Such detail will pay off when it’s time to write your note and you need to recall the precise gift.

Also, mark down exactly you gave you the gift. Don’t write “from the Johnsons” because you might receive another gift from other Johnsons. And when it’s time to write the note, you’ll want to know the coffee grinder was from “Greg and Lucy Johnson and their son Mike.” Be careful to note all names on the gift card because that will determine to whom you write the note. 

Many brides and grooms also specify on their list:

the date the gift arrives

the store where it was purchased (if known)

the date the thank you note was sent

Your list then becomes a one-stop handy reference tool. 

 

Shower gifts

Before the shower takes please, ask a person who’s going to be a guest at the shower if she’ll make a list of the gifts you receive as you’re opening them. You probably know an ideal person for this List Maker job, someone who:

will pay attention

writes neatly and carefully 

would be happy to help with this 

Never ask the hostess to do this job. She’s far too busy. Also, never ask the mother-of-the-bride or mother-of-the-groom to be the List Maker. These special ladies should be able to just sit back and enjoy your shower.

Ask your List Maker to write down a description of each item and the person’s name who gave it to you. Gently ask the person to be specific in describing each item, such as “a set of blue-flowered sheets,” and to clearly say who gave the gift because it might be more than one person. 

When you get home, transfer the gift information to your gift log, so all presents are listed in one place.

 

Wedding gifts 

Most of the gifts you receive will probably be arriving before the wedding to your home or your parents’ home. Keep adding to your list each of the gifts you receive. A smart bride or groom will do it every time a gift arrives. 

Even though it violates most etiquette guidelines, alas, some guests will be bringing their gifts to your wedding or reception. 

Many mix-ups happen with these gifts, and upset brides and grooms can have a hard time matching-up cards to gifts. Make provisions in advance.

Assign someone the task of organizing the gifts at the wedding. Don’t ask your mother, a bridesmaid or any member of the wedding party. Many times a close friend or neighbor is the ideal person. Stress to your Organizer the importance of the job, to help you properly thank the right people for the gifts. Give this person at least two rolls of cellophane tape and a notebook to take to the wedding or reception. 

If you’re planning on opening some or all of the gifts at the reception, ask your Organizer to stand by and tape the gift card to the gift after you’ve opened it. Also, the Organizer should make a list of the gifts in the notebook as you open then, giving as complete a description as possible. 

Most gifts aren’t opened at the reception and each needs an extra measure of protection as they will be transported to your home later. Look out! A card that is merely tucked into the ribbon or fragilely attached can be easily separated from the gift. 

Ask your Organizer to tape each card to its gift soon after it arrives. Tell the Organizer to be extra generous with the tape – not just a tab at the top of the envelope. Rather, make a giant “X” over the card, securing it to the gift. 

When you return from your honeymoon and open these gifts, make the entries on your list of each gift and its sender.

Gifts will continue to arrive after the wedding. Continue to make note of every gift received on your master list, to have a final and complete record.

Emily Easton is a note-writing expert. Her website on Wedding Thank You Notes can be found at  HYPERLINK “http://www.emilyeaston.com” http://www.emilyeaston.com

 

SILVER CHIAVARI CHAIRS NOW AVAILABLE

SILVER CHIAVARI CHAIRS NOW AVAILABLE

Look what just arrived, just in time for the Holidays!! We now have 200 of these beauties in silver with white tufted cushions. Call or email to reserve them for your next event – 850.570.5999 or JohnGandyEvents@comcast.net

Write charming wedding Thank You Notes – by letting your style shine through.

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That beautiful stack of shower and wedding presents is growing and growing – and so is your obligation to write thank you notes.

Relax! Find your own style of writing and the wonderful, natural “you” will shine through.

First rule of a good thank you note: never start with the words “Thank you.” It’s true. The note receiver will know they are in for a ho-hum read if a note starts “Thank you so much for the beautiful set of sheets.”  By making yourself begin with anything but “Thank you,” you’ll be on your way to letting your own style take over.  Try one of these openings that matches the real you:

“Tyler and I were so excited to receive the handsome set of steak knives!”

“What a wonderful surprise your gift was!”

“The set of dishes you sent to Brad and me is so appreciated and we thank you for your kindness.”

Of course, some where in your note you should say “Thank you” but force yourself to start the note with anything but that phrase. Your note will stand out from others.

Even a formal note, usually written to people you don’t know, can reflect the real you if you show enthusiasm and gratitude:

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Allen, 

With so many items a newlywed couple has to buy to set up a household, your generous check is very much appreciated. Stacy and I send heartfelt thanks for a wedding gift that will be put to good use. How kind of you to do this for us!

We look forward to seeing you at the wedding, and are glad you can be there to share our day.

Sincerely,

Luke Dempsey

If you know the gift-giver well, just put on paper what you would say to the person. Avoid a stiff, too-formal style in your notes by trying to write as naturally as you talk. If you feel like saying “I absolutely love the coffee maker you gave to Graham and me!” then write that in your note. Your delight will guarantee that the note is well-received.

For notes to close friends, your own enthusiasm and even a sense of humor can enter into the note. Go ahead and be informal and you’ll make your friends smile.

Dear Peg,

“Get outta here!” That’s what I shouted when I opened the box of the Ohio State table linens and place mats that you sent. We love, love, love them! 

Now that I have to be a grownup and actually set a table, your gift will come in so handy. But please come over soon and show me how to operate that thing called a stove.

You’re the best Buckeye cousin ever, Peg. Leave it to you and Matt to come up with an exceptional gift. Jason and I send big thanks to both of you for a fun addition to our kitchen. 

We can’t wait to see you at the wedding. Look for me – I’ll be the one wearing white.

Love,

Olivia 

Keep a handy list of adjectives to use in your notes, to describe your gifts: lovely, treasured, much-appreciated, wonderfully practical, romantic, fun, elegant, handsome, good-looking, imaginative, generous, classic, pretty, thoughtful.

Just as you use another person’s name when you talk, mentioning the person’s name again in the body of the note is a way to add extra warmth and sincerity. Example: “You’ve always had such good taste, Pam, and this beautiful gift is another example.”

The best way of ensuring that your notes will be well-written? Keep up with your notes, by writing soon after a gift arrives. When there’s not an overwhelming amount of notes to write at any time, you’ll find your style will be relaxed and gracious.

Emily Easton is a note-writing expert. Her website on Wedding Thank You Notes can be found at  http://www.emilyeaston.com

 

Rentals at the NEW Warehouse

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The John Gandy Events team have been busy, busy, busy Warehouse Warriors reorganizing all our wonderful new pieces that we have collected recently. Click on the image above to open a new window of pictures of the new warehouse and these few notable pieces that we have recently added to our collection:

Crystal Floor Chandeliers

White Glass Chandeliers (these are HUGE)

Victorian Sofa, re-upholstered with gorgeous damask fabric

Red Matching Queens Chairs

Refinished Buffets and Dressers, perfect for a cake table

We have so many items that we cannot possibly list or show them here, however we invite you to contact us to make an appointment to see all that we offer. Take a look and let us know what items you would like to have at your next event – or better yet, just tell us what your event is and we will suggest pieces and design the layout for the highest impact possible.  Let us show you how we can exceed your expectations!

Whether you are looking for gorgeous gold chivari chairs for your wedding or luscious lounge furniture for your ladies luncheon, John Gandy Events has it covered. With literally thousands of items available, housed in their private warehouse, John Gandy Events has decor and furniture for any occasion.  We now have over 1,000 Elegant Chiavari ballroom chairs in stock. We currently inventory 500 Gold, 500 Mahogany, and 200 White wooden Chiavari ballroom chairs with tasteful cushions. We are the only vendor in Tallahassee and surrounding areas to offer exquisite Mahogany Chiavari Barstools. Perfect for the must have pub tables for any upscale event. Our specialty furniture collection includes:

Modern lounge furniture

Bubble chairs

White leather sofas

White victorian sofa and chairs with matching tables

A variety of White, Black and Natural cloth sofas and chairs

Acrylic tables

Custom painted and weathered tables, buffets and decorative chests

Lighting including real crystal, working chandeliers

Ottomans

Floor pillows, Decorative Pillows and throws

Modern barstools

Gazebos and Chupphas

and so much more!

If you do have some specific pieces in mind, please email us at JGERentals@comcast.net and let us know your name, phone and email, event type and date and items you may be interested in. All of our rentals are custom quoted by a rental specialist.

Check Us Out!!

Check Us Out!!

John Gandy Events has revived and refreshed our website adding photos of some of the amazing events of 2012 as well as a new “Rentals” section of the website for information about how you can secure some of our one-of-a-kind pieces from our private collection for your next event. Take a look and let us know what you think!

2013 JGE Lookbook

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A preview of a few of the exciting new pieces we have to offer in 2013. We still have many classic items in stock as well, however, we are growing our inventory each day, and have even moved to a new warehouse to be able to display all of our decor properly. Take a look and let us know what you think…does it make you want to throw a party? Click the link below…

https://docs.google.com/open?id=0B-Vn5YFzpD9WMWhWcFNoYldLbG8

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