ASK JOHN! Wedding Wednesdays August



Q: I am getting married next year and the venue I am using provides an on-site coordinator with the package. Since I have someone on-site, would I still need your services? – Marci H. 

A: Marci, first off, congratulations on your engagement! Thank you for asking such a great question, the short answer is YES! John Gandy Events, is more than a planner, we are event designers; and as you know, an event designer is an essential element of any well planned affair. Our work begins well before the event, assisting with budget planning, setting up vendor appointments and finalizing a timeline for starters. On-site specialists are just that, they specialize in the location in which they work but may not have the design expertise that a true planner can offer. We work closely with these individuals to design your wedding and ensure the execution of each aspect is flawless. For example, an on-site coordinator will make sure that other events occurring on the property at the same time as yours will not have scheduling conflicts, but they do not typically offer you an unique design of the layout of the room, alternating table sizes and linen choices to work best with the number of guests you are expecting. We handle all the details from concept to completion, guaranteeing that your wedding will be all that you have dreamed, and exceed your expectations.



Q: When should I send save the dates for my wedding…I have been putting them off as I do not know what style I want for my formal invite, and they should match -RIGHT?

A: Not QUITE right! Ideally save the dates should be mailed anywhere from 9-12 months before the big day. Save the dates are a good way to let your friends and family know your engaged and to plan to attend your wedding. Your guests will undoubtedly travel from far and near to be with you on your special day, so the least you can do is provide them with enough advance notice to plan for the trip, save money, make travel arrangements, etc. As for matching them to your formal wedding invitation – that is not necessarily the case. You certainly can design an image or monogram to carry through all your wedding pieces, but your save the date can be as simple as a fun, unique postcard that portrays you and your fiance in your favorite engagement photo holding a sign with the date, or featuring you both in a quirky shot that shows off your personality or even a design that eludes to the theme of your wedding, but doesn’t give everything away. Your formal invitation (that will follow the save the date 6-8 weeks before your wedding date) is meant to be the most formal invitation you will ever send, and should be classic and timeless; no other invitation associated with the wedding should trump it’s appearance, so most often, it doesn’t “match” the simple save the date you sent months previous.



Q: I am planning my second wedding and I was wondering if it ok for me to wear white? – Amy R.

A: Congratulations Amy!! Of course you can wear white, especially if you were not able to have the princess dress of your dreams the first time around. However, since you are wiser and more experienced now, you can think about adding a color sash or glam belt to accent the perfect attire for your second time around making this dress timeless. Learn from what you liked/disliked about the previous dress; your taste has probably changed from your younger self and you’re more likely to make an informed decision this time around in more ways than one 😉 The most important part of your wedding day attire is not the color, but the fact that whatever you wear, your groom will not be able to take his eyes off you when you walk down the isle.




A: Pamela, I always tell my brides there are a few things to consider when choosing a venue: First, though it may be more than you planned, you should spend the money upfront if you find the perfect venue, as opposed to 

spending all that or more on the back end with time and funds trying to transform a venue into something it is not. Second, If you do not have the luxury to choose from many formal venues due to location or budget, then embrace what you do have to work with.

I love the contradiction of rustic elegance you can achieve by taking a barn or plantation and adding formal, elegant touches that just finish the look: picture a mix of burlap and pintuck linens, with sitting areas purposely placed using indoor furniture outdoors and a beautiful crystal chandelier hanging from the oak tree above. You can always make a barn a ballroom, but you cannot make a ballroom a barn.


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